So, dear readers, I decided to move on… and now, after several weeks, the decision to move on was 100% on point. Not only was it on point but it allowed me to be open and ready to meet someone new. But you know I must tell you all about the update. First… The “Fader”…
Ok, he is labeled “the Fader” because that’s basically what he did. After his “confessions”, he started to fade. Probably the best decision in this whole thing because if he’d remained in my face, I wouldn’t have been able to navigate beyond the “human factor”. What does that mean?, you may ask... Well, basically, I’ve learned I have a propensity to try to use the human factor as an excuse for some bad behavior. So, after that last post, I decided to cut the connection. Yep, I cared for him but …did I really?
No, wait a minute, hear me out…lol. Yeah, the image he projected was awesome and that is what I fell for…in reality, that image never existed, at least not with him. So, once I wrapped my mind around that concept, the disconnection was a lot easier than I anticipated. Simply put, the person I’d fallen for didn’t exist…and who, but a crazy person, would continue to cling to a phantom? Surely not I!
So, the disconnect happened. And just like always, once a Fader feels YOU have faded or are fading, they attempt to reappear. Sure enough, he came back …strongly. So much so, I had to block his number because he obviously wasn’t hearing me say I’d moved on. And because the disconnect had happened, I felt nothing …except the sweet breeze of victory over a mess. *whoosahhhh! ..lol..
Lesson? Hmm, there’s a few… My lesson was every relationship is surely a lesson and even when you’re not trying to learn anything new, it’s ALWAYS for the best. His lesson? Don’t know if it’s soaked in yet but it should be 'you should only expect one chance to do the right thing.' No one is guaranteed a second, third, chance. Your lesson? Yeah, you get one too…. When given the opportunity to do the right thing, choose wisely, knowing the possible consequences and being sure you’re able to live with the worse possible scenario.
Well so ends another chapter of my dating life….BUT my story continues and I’m still reading my “book”.. and this upcoming chapter has me very excited!! *wink…
~Toodles!
