Unchartered Territory

Lately, I’ve been trying to fully participate in this space I find myself in. This space called “single”….NOT to be confused with loneliness, …no, just being solo, relationship-wise, post legal adulthood. I left the comforting arms of my parents once I turned 18 to join the military; was married from the ripe old age of 21 until exactly twenty-nine days after my 45th birthday. There’s only been one serious relationship since, which ended a few weeks ago, and now I find myself….single. Even during the divorce/ separation process, I had lawyers and other distractions to give me that false sense of security. This is my very first time being out here truly on my own, without parents, the military, a spouse or boyfriend to provide that safety net and to be honest, it’s ENLIGHTENING. I’m learning so much about myself at this time as I’m forced to only deal with me in the decisions I make and the directions I take.

This space… is a somewhat calming place. There are no expectations, therefore there are no disappointments deriving from an outside source, other than myself; if I want to go somewhere or do something, I don’t feel obligated to get anyone else’s participation or consensus; and surprisingly, my phone has “detached” itself from its permanent spot on my hip!

I remember all of the things that intrigued me during the time I was married…all of the spontaneous and “new” concepts that are now out there that weren’t there prior to my “marital bliss”. Things such as travel and social meetup.com groups, impromptu daytrips, online dating, speed dating, heck, dating period! In fact, that’s something else I’m discovering….I haven’t truly “dated” in over 24 years! I’m not saying I haven’t been on a date, but to actually “date”? It’s been a while. My last relationship kinda skipped that part; we went from “hello” to “you’re my man/woman” and I do believe this fact played a major part in its demise, but I digress...

These new and spontaneous concepts…. I want to experience them ALL! And what better time than now, to do that! So, which do I start with? Actually, I’ve already started perusing the meetup.com groups to find like-minded folks to do all of these newly found things with! I’ve even joined a couple of them! The rest of the items are on my “to do” list and I plan on getting involved with those sooner rather than later. And guess who will be one of the first to know about each of these experiences? Why YOU, my dearest reader…that’s who!! ;-)